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Hey Terra,
You've been such a good friend and person and I'm really sorry this is happening in your life.  I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers and I really hope everything turns out ok. 

Always here if you need to talk
CA

I just put in a prayer for you

Hopefully all goes well, I mean, from what you told me it seems like he will be completely fine with you trying to reconnect with him. It's been 5 years, so if he was bitter, maybe he'll be over it by now and be happy to accept your friend request and eventually return to your guys's old happy relationship.

I've gone through fallouts with people before, ussualy brought on by myself, and eventually I just realize that I was wrong for ignoring them and just try to go back to normal. I don't know your brother, but if he's anything like me then hopefully it'll all work out

Hey people. You're really all very cool. Hugs to all of you! Thanks for the prayers. Thanks for being there for me. You make my day.

You were right too, I think it had been long enough to let the bad feelings go. I don't know for his wife but at least on his end. He accepted my friend request. He haven't said anything yet, but I plan on writing him a letter soon. Baby steps. I don't want to rush anything and risk that he feels overwhelmed if I go too fast. It's been a while.

I am glad that he accepted, really. I've been missing him since a long time now.

Thanks again all. You're great people
I will tell you if/how things develop later too.

Yeah it's good that my brother is open to reconnect things again with me. I think you're right. He might be wondering indeed.

And I've been pretty lucky, he seems to go on his FB just once every few months, lol. His last friends comments were in January, lol. So I am lucky that he saw me so fast. It's just like your prayers sent him to go check his facebook, lol.

Thanks Jumpy, it is sweet of you to say. I'll let you know how it goes from now. I don't know if it'll develop really fast since he is so not-often online from what I could see.

Sounds like a plan

Thanks people, you're all really nice. I really appreciate that you care about this. Unfortunately the news aren't really good...

Got news, yes, but not from him, from the wife, their FB account is apparently a shared one. Wife replied with a long letter, telling me how glad (yes, glad) she is that my grandmother is heavily sick with Alzheimer, forgetting everything and basically near death. That harpy wrote a whole paragraph where she revels about that. When I've shown this to my eldest daughter, she couldn't believe what she was reading.

That woman is insane, if that's the kind of things my bro hears all day, I can fairly understand why he picked a job that keeps him out of the house 80% of the time. He's a on-call security agent and NEVER refuses a shift, no matter when. I am GLAD I am single and not stuck with someone like her (male versions exist I am sure, lol).

Her letter was so stupid. Hey it's been 5+ years?? Maybe if I write to David, my only brother, I want to talk to David himself and that's it?? The fact that she replied in place of my bro made me so furious, I've received this a couple weeks ago and I couldn't post about it. I just didn't want to think about it. Stupid control freak b*. I think my bro's still able to reply to his own messages if he wants to.

Hey, my grandma can't even remember her brothers and sisters now!!! I can't have a conversation with her anymore, and she's still alive. Not for long. Where is that a good thing??? And now this b* is happy because soon she won't have to share my bro's freetime with her!!! My bro's always been close to my grandma, she partially raised him.

Now I don't even know if my brother ever read my message, or how to get to him. If I say anything the wife dislikes, she might just never let me have at him at all.

Wish I knew how to tell her "Look, I was trying to talk to David, please." without sounding rude or having her shut me away from him. If I just say it like that, it will sound like I ignored her message, she might just make things even worse. Heck, she's been talking bad of me behind my back for the past 10 years that she's with my bro, part of why things split. Really doesn't take much for her to just... get berzerk about someone. Or rather berzerk, period.

Sorry, I had to finally vent. It's been a couple weeks, this rolls and rolls in my head... Thanks for being there, vods. Wish me luck to find a way around her...

Yeah. Thanks for your support. It's quite a Pandora's box.

When people talk about a successful life, with a marriage, your own house, a car, a job, etc. My bro and his harpy got all that. And I don't envy them one bit.

I got no crazy partner, no job taking most of my time awake, no neverending debts (got my student loan to repay, that's it)... my position might be a bit less close to the dream life, but I still think it is better. Watching people like them makes me think twice before matching with the first fool that comes like my bro did. Then you wonder how he could make it go for all these years, I guess some men can suffer forever in silence.

I think he's just happy that she decides everything in his place. I'd quickly choke in these conditions, but my brother is lazy to a sin extent. Lazy and attached to the material side of his life. It looks good on paper when you have everything they have, and I think he feels "important" that he "made it".

I didn't give up about talking to him again. I want to reply to her. She'll have to understand that my brother is *the* person I wish to reconnect with. You see, she's the kind to think a brother-sister bond isn't important, like far on a list of priorities. She thinks he should include her in this kind of things. If he does it's going to be all about her again and we won't be able to talk, him and me.

I really don't know how I'll deal with her. I'll let my subconscious work on it, eventually my intuition will "eureka" me.

Was sweet of you to pass and say something Cecilia. I hope the chat room is better soon so we can chat again one of these nights. Was fun.

Wow, she sounds psycho.

I don't want to add flames to the fire or anything but if your brother loves your grandmother that much I'd find a way to see him face to face with a copy of that letter she sent you. It's a bold and intrusive move and I may have no clue what I'm even talking about since I've never been married or had a real brother or sister, but what if he doesn't know she feels this way? That just doesn't seem fair to me. I hate watching people get manipulated by lovers.

Even if my advice isn't the best route, don't give up! Praying for you both!

Wow that doesn't sound like a very good relationship, does she like not trust him at all or something or is she just controlling (or both)? Anyways if you called does she always answer the phone first or something or maybe would it be possible to catch him when he's home or something? Heck how far are they would it be possible to just drop in sometime? Best of luck whatever you decide to do though

Not a problem at all. And the chat is working again, just so you know. Though I've not seen anyone besides myself go in there since it's back up.