Bf/Gf (Page 31 of 48)

Man. I am tired today... why you may ask.. and why on earth are you saying it here in this thread? Its all because my BF spent all night texting me. Which I guess should be a good thing, because they were of the best kind of messages filled with "beautiful's", "miss you's" and "wish you could just be here with me all the time's", but at one point I was "Ok sweetie. I am going to sleep..." and he still sent more text. It seemed like as soon as I would dose off, there was another. I love him very much so, and it hurts me that I am slightly annoyed by this. Am I wrong to be so here?

Ah Thanks terra and NB. I feel better about it now. The txting ended up with a misscommuntication which resulted in the BF comming out to see me and we spent the day together. That makes me . It was great and something I think we both needed. It seems like he's txting me more than when we first started dating... and I think thats sweet.

And T I know exactly what you mean

Lord I know how that goes. Its almost as if somoetimes they want to break your love and spirit for the visual arts. Negative critism can be helpful...if they pair it with something positive. I mean i guess there are a few projects they must see that don't have ANYTHING good... but I have seen your work and that is not your case. Your professors are just jerks. At this point I would take negative critism form my one professor because I haven't had ANY indication of where I stand in his class (Advanced Painting).

I am happy on my own anyways.

For a 12 year old , I hate love, and think it is pointless! ( To me anyway )

YUCK!

I am more happy to spend time with my family and playing with my toys and games than sharing time with anyone. ( Not that I would )

Good. Enjoy your childhood while you have it.

I am sorry she feels that way. I know many times I myself have felt similar to how you describe she does. Skinny is something i envy, and dream about. I feel self concious when I try to look nice because I fear looking like a ridiculous fat person trying to hard. Skinny is not something I think I'll ever have, especally in my family. I've felt better about myself in the time I've been on this site, partly because of my BF. He almost never fails to complement me on "how cute I look", say that I am "beautiful", and tells me that size doesn't matter. He's told me when I have expressed my body missgivings that i am "far from fat" and that it doesn't matter to him. That made me so happy to be accepted by someone that it started to make me cry. I think If you just talk to her calmly and lovingly, say how you are worried about her health, and reassure her what you think about her physically that could go far in bolstering her self esteem.  There are no quick fixes, but keep saying nice things to her, and try not to nag too much and that could turn her around. Maybe offer to go to the gym together.

For Gods sake....tell her that my cousin did that and ended up in critical care at a hospital, and now has psychological issues.  It dosen't work.  Ever.  I would suggest getting her away from the crowd she usually hangs with for a while.  They are probably putting pressure on her, even if it is unintentional, and it is causeing her to feel like she needs to lose weight.   I know that a lot of times having a bunch of people around you obsessing over their weight will actually stress you into thinking that you should be worried about it, even though it isn't a problem.

Just my 2 cents....

The only thing I can think of is showing her what others say about her approach to losing weight.

Unfortunately the best way to lose weight is slowly. That way it stays off.

By eating healthily, walking more and taking regular exercise should do it much better than laxatives.

I lost weight when I ate well, walked at least 10,000 steps a day and did yoga most nights.

Good luck.

Hehe Miba I had a pedometer which counted how many steps that I walked (I used it a lot so that even though it is broken i can take an educated guess at how many steps i have walked when I have been to the shops, taken my eldest to nursery etc)

It is easier when I have to take my eldest to nursery as that gets me out.

I think I can walk 10,000 steps in about 2 hours (I could probably cut the time down if I ran some of it) but that is based on a brisk walk) usually though I get the steps by walking the long way to get to places and getting out and about at any opportunity.

I found by walking that much is really good for me. I do not like the gym or running a lot so that is perfect for me to help keep me fit

That is understandable for you Terra. I was the same after I had my younglings.

I'm sorry but to me running is the worst.  I cannot stand it.  Because of the fact it is so boring.  Music helps but not  much.  I really suggest geting involved in some sports.  Take for example badminton is the best.  When playing against good people or if you really try it is a good work out.  Supposedly you run twice as much as you do in tennis.  Lacrosse is also a fun one for me.

And I do realize that that there are a lot of people out there who may not be the most coordinated.  I guess 10 years of baseball des help a litte. 

Anyway basically what I'm saying is find something you enjoy doing that gives you a good workout.  For you this may be something like running.  To each his own.

so i got complained at last night because my girlfriend decided that our relationship was getting boring because i talk about the same things every night any suggestions