Honestly, I feel bad for people who think they constantly need a bf/gf in order to be happy or just to fit in. I'm a senior in Highschool... I've only had three boyfriends. One of which was the ONLY one that I went on actual dates with and kissed. And that one ended horribly, 'cause I got WAY to attached. But I'm not going to go into details, the fact is I learned that you shouldn't expected someone to love you just because you love them... and also that you SHOULD NOT be with someone who does not RESPECT or CARE for you the same way you feel about them. It's just not right.
I think part of the reason I haven't had many bf is because I'm rather picky... when I was a freshman, I had two guys who liked me at the same time. I turned both of them down. I know I really hurt there feelings, but never go out with some one out of pity or just for the heck of it, 'cause it will only make this worse. That's basically what happened to me... what goes around comes around.
Not only that, but face it... dating in school is just pointless. Hard truth. How many high school sweethearts are married? It's so worthless and a waste of money... yes, money. When you're dating someone you really like, you feel the need to constantly buy something for them in order to prove your devotion, and then it's all wasted when they dump you.
These days, so many young women and men want to rush to get married as soon as they're out of college. Whether it's because they think the relationship will actually work, or 'cause they want to fit the norms of society, it doesn't matter. The point is that you need to get out and LIVE. Be independent. I know personally that I'd like to travel the world. I want to see Germany, Japan, Egypt, New Zealand... the list goes on. And face it, once you're married with kids, you can't do SQUAT. All your time and money is invested into your kids until you're retired, basically.
By all means, find someone to love you and love them for who they are... be happy together. But do not expect them to be tthe first person you dat date, and don't rush getting into relationships. And don't get involved in "friends with benefits" either, that's just distasteful... and besides, what would Boba think of that?
Just my thoughts, hope some one can use the advice.
-BFFC Manji aka Jess