Topic: Bf/Gf

Hey you never know....

I suppose this is related...

Have any of you vode had problems or issues with their ex's? What's normal and what's head games?

i once did (she was a kriffing di'kut) but as for normal it all depends on how crazy your ex is. My buir once had one acuse him and i of beating her(which we didnt). But one i had said i was just using her to get to her friend(which i wasnt). So the level of crazy really decides.

I just think mine is playing games... trying to get me back with him or something. Or make me want to miss him or ... I just don't know! I don't know why he decides to act like my boyfriend more now that we've broken up, esp. when it was his idea in the first place. I don't feel the way i used to about him, and I know that we shouldn't be together. He was toxic you know? I wish i could make him stop with out super conflict.

Kick him in the grill, brings closure to any relationship.

i agree sci but i think she would like would avoid any police intervention. thats why you kill him

Well there's always that, I was trying to go for the more peaceful approach.

Or tell you or SciFi to get into contact with some kind of military official, tell him her ex is a terrorist playing mind-games on Americans, and testing how far the average American will go before snapping, get a firing squad on the mission, and then its done. Legal, lethal, and satisfying.

Just tell him to go away, and ignore him 100% and if he keeps bugging you, tell him you are going to call the cops on charges of harassment.

Or, and this has been a sucker for me, just cry in front of your other guy friends. 9 times out of 10 they'll all saddle up and whoop his ass without so much as waiting for an explanation. This, however, will definitely count as a "super conflict".

still effective though

At least your ex isn't some bipolar wiccan trying to kill the new guy that you're interested in with magick, just for having an interest. That's what happened with my partner's ex-girlfriend. She wouldn't leave him alone after he asked for a break, and then a few months later (when he met me and we started dating) she went bonkers and was trying to use "spells" to either kill me or ruin his relationship with me, as well as emotionally blackmail my partner by harassing him and then went so far as to attempt suicide a second time (first time was after he asked for a break). Serious business. Luckily, she got over it after a few months and has left us alone (this happened about 3.5 years ago).

I'd say just ignore him, or be as contrite as possible when you speak to him. If you're really indifferent, then yes it will frustrate him; but if you maintain vigilance, he'll likely get tired eventually. At least, I hope so...I've never had any ex-boyfriends trying to repossess me (all I have are redophile friends that want to duel my partner for my hand xD) so I can't say that my advice has worked for me, personally, but it's worked relatively well for a few friends of mine in a similar situation. Best of luck on getting rid of the pest. Just remember that you've always got your vode to back you up. :3

Stay strong in saying no. It can be hard, but keep at it and eventually he might go away. Also, don't really give him attention. If you don't react he might stop. Otherwise I have no real good advice.

'Cause there'd be no investigation with a murder...

you hide the body so it becomes a missing persons case if anyone cares enough to file one

i've six count it 6 gfs and all of themdumped for some other hot guy so i went crazy and now everyone hates me

I actually have never ended a relationship myself

Let me get this straight.  You said you were 13 and you have had 6 girlfriends?  Personaly when I see all these middle school kids walking around town holding hands I laugh. 

What, to you J, is the point of 'dating' at such a young age?  What do you look to get out of dating?

im a person that needs to be loved and to be honest im a wreck without it so right now my life sucks cuz my families dieing and almost no1 remotely likes me so i feel like god's just ignoring me.in other words im not rly in the mood to deal w/ this BS OF A LIFE

That's a very dangerous mentality to be living with.  Hold steadfast through this time in your life.  Don't ever think ou aren't loved and or needed by anyone.  It's my personal belief that no matter what's happening there is always someone who loves you.  I went through a really hard time in my life with a bunch of people close to me dying and holding onto that thought got me through it.  It was nothing like losing a sister but it was tough.  So just keep your head high no matter what happens.

Thanks guys for all the support. I'm trying to push him away carefully because  I don't want to really anger him. One of the problems with him is that he knows a lot of people in the area, people i'm sorta friendly with, and people that i have to have contact with because they know my family and my family knows, and I REALLY REALLY don't want him spreading any false bad stories around. The drama and stress that would cause.......
So far its really just been text messages, but I dont want him to ruin anything with potential intrests i have. Ones that are already better than he ever was.

Yes Sev you make a very good point. And J. you don't need a silly girl to justify your self. I'm sorry that things are hard and rough right now. Your vod are here for you.

Nope, no boyfriend. Single, again.

Damn, MossNoth's back on the market,  heart-breaker and life taker of the BFFC.

I've kind of given up on relationships for the time being, they never seem to really work out for me, so I've been keepin things on a semi-strictly hook-up/friends with benefits basis.

I say never give up. You never know what you may find out there in life, and  oddly enough you and I may find ourselves happy.

I must say that it was hard on the cruise i just got back from ( my first real vacation in  years). There was surprising amount of couples and that made me long for that sort. ( Its funny because I dont really feel comfortable saying again because I don't know if I ever had a real normalish relationship with my ex.) I really think i just want to be comfortable with some one, and not have to make excuses and fear emotions and what the other might say.

Heres to being ourselves!

Ps. The ex hasnt spoken a word since last tuesday! Thats great because i was so so so angry about him that i was losing my ability to function. And he was still giving me mixed signals. Good riddance!

Good for you, I hope you enjoy your freedom - I definitely do. Maybe I just don't like being tied down....oh well, I'll save philosophizin' for another time.

And just a random observation...is that last part of your sig from HK-50 in KOTOR II?

I hope i enjoy my freedom too.

And Yes, the second quote is totally from HK. He has some of the most fun lines in my opinion.

I saw this and went, "What???" and proceded to laugh - really, really hard.

I don't think you should have a BF/GF until you're at least 16. Or even date until then. After all how would a boy say to a girl:"Me and my mom will pick you up at seven. She drives a white Malibu."

LOL

I don't think there needs to be a strict age barrier. Rather, a maturity one. You shouldn't want a boyfriend/girlfriend because "everyone else has one", thats a really stupid reason. You should actually care about the person before taking the big step to boyfriend or girlfriend. Not because they're pretty, or popular. Nor because you think someone has to love you. No one HAS to love anyone. True love is unconditional. If you feel needed that badly, for gods sake get a PET.

Hence: FWB and hook ups are the righteous path!

jk, it's not for everyone.

As far as the age thing goes, I will give Seco this: it is a hell of a lot easier to look cool when you can drive yourself, with out a doubt. Thinking back on the parent-driven date days....gives me the heebly jeeblies.

the girlfriend:

well i mean, you can't really tell
oh well

You guys should hit the beach tanning or somethin, and lay off the black eyeliner.

can't help it, we're goth kids
haha or whatever the hell theyre called
nah jk

no photoshop on thisn
goofing around in the bathroom i actually let her shave my face haha
hence her 'wtf' look

HA! You guys are soo cute.

I am biggest believer in dating when you are ready. I didn't date in HS, or even most of college. Part of that wasn't voluntary though, as apparently i was undateable. I dont know what the deal was, not being a man...

Being a very masculine, burly, and manly man, I shall provide insight.

Obviously it's the presence of another man in your life - Boba's a hard person to measure up to. Most guys are probably just intimidated.

that is epic
lol

2 days ago was me and my girlfriends anniversary

been 2 years now :D

Congratulations on what I consider surpassing the limits of male endurance.

I have a new bird who has been my mate for a while shes awesome we're very alike and she has a great music taste :D.

lol, thanks

I don't remember whether I came here and said anything or if I just left y'all in the dark about my whereabouts and mental and "bf/gf" statuses, but it'll be our one year anniversary tomorrow.

No GF :(

Little brats, lol. Male youngsters like you don't even know what endurance is.

I'm apt to agree with you there girl! I'm loosing faith in humanity i think sometimes. Especially when it comes to love. I so tired of being heartbroken.

Oh come on Si, Dooon't stop, belieeeeeevin, hold on to that feeeliiiiin.

There should really be like, a "surprisingly appropriate song lyrics" thread. On a semi-related matter, met this new girl at a friend's college over break. Cute, funny, godly sense of good music; we'll see what goes down.

I cant tell whether or not Terra is taking a sexual poke at younger guys, we get real sensitive yknow......

Si, sorry about the heartbreak, sister. Sucks. Just give yourself time, if there's been one there'll be more. You're still young and beautiful. You got forever ahead of you.

Preach about the hurtin brotha!

.....sista!

Not preaching. Si knows what I mean.

....I was jokin, but that's cool. xD

I just stole me a new girl :D

Stole? Sounds bad. :P