Topic: Bf/Gf

LOL because out there in the Dune Sea all there is is painful dial up !(Although his connection may be more reliable than mine when I am mooching a wireless signal. When its around its fairly fast though. :P) Sounds like a fun time :D (If it were up to me there would be much better things than you tube to be up to. :P)

YEA! (For terra :D)

Man. I am tired today... why you may ask.. and why on earth are you saying it here in this thread? Its all because my BF spent all night texting me. Which I guess should be a good thing, because they were of the best kind of messages filled with "beautiful's", "miss you's" and "wish you could just be here with me all the time's", but at one point I was "Ok sweetie. I am going to sleep..." and he still sent more text. It seemed like as soon as I would dose off, there was another. I love him very much so, and it hurts me that I am slightly annoyed by this. Am I wrong to be so here?

I think not. I mean, I just loove to text my gf for the first month or so, but I grow tired of it later on.
It's not that I grow tired of the girl, just the texting part. Dunno, I've never been in love for real, don't really know  how it's like, but things aren't what they used to be, after a while. The thrill is gone, as the fear that i might lose them. When we're settled, I usually become a bit of a pragmatist and not that romantic.
Uh, I just hope it happens to all of you and that I'm not that bad a person!

Ah Thanks terra and NB. I feel better about it now. The txting ended up with a misscommuntication which resulted in the BF comming out to see me and we spent the day together. That makes me :D. It was great and something I think we both needed. It seems like he's txting me more than when we first started dating... and I think thats sweet.

And T I know exactly what you mean :P

Sometimes there is confusion of focus. I get that way in the darkroom or painting studio sometimes. Its nothing against you T. If he shows that kind of dedication in one area of life...

Lord I know how that goes. Its almost as if somoetimes they want to break your love and spirit for the visual arts. Negative critism can be helpful...if they pair it with something positive. I mean i guess there are a few projects they must see that don't have ANYTHING good... but I have seen your work and that is not your case. Your professors are just jerks. At this point I would take negative critism form my one professor because I haven't had ANY indication of where I stand in his class (Advanced Painting).

For the female members in here, my girlfriend is desperate to lose weight (and i dont know why shes not fat but shes not skinny) and she uses laxatives after she eats and she wont believe me when i told her that they mess with your system.... so any ideas how i can convince her to see reason?

I am happy on my own anyways. :)

For a 12 year old , I hate love, and think it is pointless! ( To me anyway ) :P

YUCK!

I am more happy to spend time with my family and playing with my toys and games than sharing time with anyone. ( Not that I would )

Good for you. :)

( Not in a sarcastic way though )

Good. :) Enjoy your childhood while you have it.

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–Muscle weakness, loss of tone, depressed reflexes, irregular electrical activity of the heart
that does help slightly terra but it doesn thelp with getting her to see  reason...

I am sorry she feels that way. I know many times I myself have felt similar to how you describe she does. Skinny is something i envy, and dream about. I feel self concious when I try to look nice because I fear looking like a ridiculous fat person trying to hard. Skinny is not something I think I'll ever have, especally in my family. I've felt better about myself in the time I've been on this site, partly because of my BF. He almost never fails to complement me on "how cute I look", say that I am "beautiful", and tells me that size doesn't matter. He's told me when I have expressed my body missgivings that i am "far from fat" and that it doesn't matter to him. That made me so happy to be accepted by someone that it started to make me cry. I think If you just talk to her calmly and lovingly, say how you are worried about her health, and reassure her what you think about her physically that could go far in bolstering her self esteem.  There are no quick fixes, but keep saying nice things to her, and try not to nag too much and that could turn her around. Maybe offer to go to the gym together.

Love....hurts....so bad. For those younger ones who have yet to experience it...for god sakes be careful.

For Gods sake....tell her that my cousin did that and ended up in critical care at a hospital, and now has psychological issues.  It dosen't work.  Ever.  I would suggest getting her away from the crowd she usually hangs with for a while.  They are probably putting pressure on her, even if it is unintentional, and it is causeing her to feel like she needs to lose weight.   I know that a lot of times having a bunch of people around you obsessing over their weight will actually stress you into thinking that you should be worried about it, even though it isn't a problem.

Just my 2 cents....

I agree

The only thing I can think of is showing her what others say about her approach to losing weight.

Unfortunately the best way to lose weight is slowly. That way it stays off.

By eating healthily, walking more and taking regular exercise should do it much better than laxatives.

I lost weight when I ate well, walked at least 10,000 steps a day and did yoga most nights.

Good luck.

How did you have the patience to count 10,000 steps? I'd lose interest round 20 or 30. :P

Anyway, I'm usually about 122-126 on my weight. I still feel fat, though. I figure no matter how thin I am I'll always be fat to me. I don't stress about it too much, I still eat stuff like candy and ice cream. Just not very often. I do eat more during the winter seasons when there's candy-holidays. But during the summer I rarely eat candy. I try to be healthy on food but I'm not too concerned about it. I exercise enough at work I don't feel I have to do it any other time. I am trying situps to remove the belly though. I've just started so no real results yet. On my days off when I'm shopping I park my car far away from the door. Sure it's sometimes annoying to walk that far, but it IS exercise...

A lot of why I feel ok about the belly (the only real fat part of me) is because my fiancee thinks I'm beautiful and tells me this at least once a day, often a lot more. Sometimes I say I feel fat so that he'll tell me I'm pretty as a confidence booster.

So I would agree with the person up there that just telling her she's beautiful to you, and a bit of encouragement would work well.

Hehe Miba :p I had a pedometer which counted how many steps that I walked (I used it a lot so that even though it is broken i can take an educated guess at how many steps i have walked when I have been to the shops, taken my eldest to nursery etc)

It is easier when I have to take my eldest to nursery as that gets me out.

I think I can walk 10,000 steps in about 2 hours (I could probably cut the time down if I ran some of it) but that is based on a brisk walk) usually though I get the steps by walking the long way to get to places and getting out and about at any opportunity.

I found by walking that much is really good for me. I do not like the gym or running a lot so that is perfect for me to help keep me fit :D

That is understandable for you Terra. I was the same after I had my younglings.

Please don't think you're fat Milba. You are far from it. You can feel the need to become more fit sure, but you're are NOT fat.  I dare not say what I weigh.  And I'm really not fat.

I'm sorry but to me running is the worst.  I cannot stand it.  Because of the fact it is so boring.  Music helps but not  much.  I really suggest geting involved in some sports.  Take for example badminton is the best.  When playing against good people or if you really try it is a good work out.  Supposedly you run twice as much as you do in tennis.  Lacrosse is also a fun one for me.

And I do realize that that there are a lot of people out there who may not be the most coordinated.  I guess 10 years of baseball des help a litte.  :P

Anyway basically what I'm saying is find something you enjoy doing that gives you a good workout.  For you this may be something like running.  To each his own.

I llike running . In fact I have put in about eight marathons in my lifetime and about to aim for the ninth. Not that I have a greyhound-like runner's body, I am 5'8" and about 150 lbs right now. So you're doing pretty darn good Miba.

so i got complained at last night because my girlfriend decided that our relationship was getting boring because i talk about the same things every night any suggestions

Lol, aside from dump her first....?  she sounds pretty shallow.

I agree.
She should find an interesting topic to discuss, instead of complaining.
Vod, be careful. Dump her before she dumps you (which she might be thinking around now).
Things are bad if she started to lose interest in you (your relationship).

:) Thanks, guys. I know I'm thin, I just can't help feeling fat. My point was that for some, there isn't really a "good enough" point. I know I shouldn't think like that, but it's hard not to.

If she didn't care about you, she wouldn't complain, she would let things go and just dump you. If she complains, it means you're important. She is trying to tell you something.

Seems to me like she's in lack of your attention. There might be an exterior factor bothering her too. That wouldn't help. But I think there's more.

I think she'd like to be in your f* spotlight, for once. It's not her losing interest in you, she feels like YOU lost interest in her. Maybe you don't feel you did, but it might be worth it to try spending a little while talking about HER for a change. With your FULL attention.

Tell her things that will make her feel interesting and attractive. Ask her about her past, about her secrets, about anything she never told you because you simply never asked. Women like to be listened to. It makes them feel important.

You can also ask if she'd like to do something new. An activity that she likes to do but that she never tried with you.

i don't have a b/f...not really rushing to either. yea i want one and all but i don't want to get one then he's a jerk to me. and i don't want to date just anyone i want to actually feel something for the guy. so don't worry, u'll get one soon enough

I am loking around right now. I have a profile on singlesnet.com. I'll see how it goes this year!

Any females living in Cali looking for a bf? I'm available. e-mail me and we'll chat.

so i was broken up with which sucks
edit:
so this girl that was hitting on me for about a week, said yesterday that she shouldn't be doing that and that she only wants one guy that she is helping cheat on his girlfriend who is also her friend

That's.....................sad

Awww. Sorry about that. Sounds like you should try with different type of people.

yeah the creepy thing is the girl that dumped me is still at my house almost every day

Whoa...what's up with THAT

i have a girl friend.
one of the coolest things about her, she doesent care that im a total star wars fanatic!
thats devotion. :)
she even drew a picture of me as a mando.

Thats sweet and cute. Keep her then. MIne is less understanding about the Mando thing.

You say that, but you once told me you never really told him about it.

Well i'm honestly a bit shy to, because when he was like.. "what site are you on..?" and told him it was the Boba Fett Fan Club, and thats when he rolled his eyes and went "oooohh" and proceded to make some sort of sarcastic remark. Then there was the time i dare said "mandalorian princess" near him and got the same reaction. I don't think he approves. If i said anything in Mando'a around him... i'm sure we'd end up fighting over it.

If he acts like that around what you love most... I wouldn't wanna be with him anymore. What kind of long-lasting relationship would that be if you had to hide something that's such a part of you?

I don't hide it really, I just don't talk about it to him really, or my family. They don't get it either. They all know I'm hardcore into Star Wars and a total geek, and yet my BF is still with me. I mean he likes Star Wars too, don't get me wrong. He's just isn't a fandalorian.

Conversion time. Start by getting him to read or play RepCom, especially Triple Zero. Thats how I got into them. Good old Kal'buir

I agree with Werda Verd, that's how i got into Mando'a too.

seriously though,
my biggest concern when i got a girlfriend was what her reaction would be when she saw my boba fett cutout.
it went much better than expected.
if you get a gf/bf that understands your obsession, stick with em.
someone who accepts you for who you are is the best thing you can have.

I think it is amazing for me to have any, and one that is as accepting as he is. I have known people a lot less so. I know I shall never find one person that accepts all that I am, so I make due with close enough.

Guys can tend to be less understanding about these kinds of things. When your man doesn't like something you like, to hell what he thinks. If you think X is good, you may. To each their opinion.
:P

Agreed, and its not that I like everything he does either. He'll never try to stop me from it and visa versa. (if he did that would be the end real fast.)

see my ex was really understanding about it... i mean i was even teaching her some mando'a

i don't, but i'm 11 so wrong age for it.

My ex read all the bios of Boba Fett from wikipedia and wookiepedia and starwars.com just so she knew who he was and why I liked him so much. We're in the process of 'making up'.