Topic: Bf/Gf

All human beings are by nature a social being.  If you have conditioned yourself to be asocial, then that's a bit different is it not?

And I believe that if you are going to start dating, then it should be by at least age sixteen.  Then you have your learners permit or whatever and hopefully a part time job.

Interesting theory, what would you say if I told you that I HAVE asked guys to dance before?  It isn't really that hard.  As for dinner....I feel guilty if anyone buys anything for me, even my grandparents.

Chivalry isn't dead, I won't let it.  As a friend put it that is how I feel.

I was too shy to ask guys anything, but when I did, I usually got shot down anyway.  But...after high school...they came to me. lol   Now being married, I'm usually the one making the suggestions as to what to do/where to go, etc.

Age to start dating:  Whenever you are ready.  I was engaged at 18---nah. Too young for me, but for some, it might work.  And defintely don't get married til you're ready--I'm still not if that makes sense, and it's been 7 years now (April 8th).

I once felt that way: that I was going to be alone or felt lonely without a BF.  Now it seems like it was more of a phase and if I had just held out a bit longer, I might be happier now.

Yay I got anouther Gril Friend, and shes not physo. Shes really cool! shes almost 16, and I'm 15, but she does not care, and neither do I.

Yay for me!

Good for you arc fett!!

Thanks, I'm happy, and shes happy. so Everybodys happy!

I gave mine back 'cause she had faulty sensors.Now I bought a new one,she has a cooking option too! (:P)

Aw, that's so sweet. ;)

That is really funky ARC Fett :D

I have a partner. It seems strange saying BF as I live with him and have three children with him and I do not want to get married (I have legally changed my surname to be the same as our younglings so unless there is a really good reason to get married then we will stay as we are)

Why not get married? Especially if you did change your name? Just out of curiousity. :)

I am not really sure I’m afraid. I have disliked the idea of marriage since I can remember.

I do not the idea of being called Mrs. I have no idea why but I would hate for myself to have that title…no detest it. But apart from that there is a feeling that I have that marriage is not the right thing for us and I can not pin point why.

The only thing that does sadden me about our situation is that from a legal point of view it would be better to be married. I feel odd when I put on forms that I am single because I do not consider myself to be so.

Maybe we will get married at some point but not for the foreseeable future and I know that Devil boy has no interest in getting married at all. LOL I would have to find an alternative to being called Mrs as well.

There is the title of Ms.

I have got that title now. I changed my title when I changed my surname. I might enquire though if I could keep the title if we ever did get married.

an interesting subject...

a bit off topic...i to do not like the institution of marriage.
i do think it to be a great construct of society...for families etc. but not for me.
from a psychological aspect-it is a knee jerk answer to say if you come from a broken home you r less
likely to jump to get married, and perhaps this is a contributing factor.

IMO in another couple of generations i think those that get married will be in the minority. i think "devil girl"-ur in the UK or europe or across the pond right? is divorce rampant over there as well? the modern american marriage is something of a whim to alot of people these days.
a fact i find odd is that it is more accepted in society to have been divorced than never to have been married...

any one interested on the history of marriage should read "the history of the wife", very interesting historical walkthough, of the transformation of marriage through out different eras and cultures.

i find that a person can have a relationship as deep and commited w/ or w/o being married.

I am married and I must say I don't think it's for everyone. I think if you're happy living together then that's fine. I've seen couples that have been together for years, get married and then get divorced not long later. Whether it's a case that the marriage was a last ditch at trying to stay together may be the reason, I don't know.

I did always want to get married when I found the right person, but honestly it wasn't that much different to being just BF/GF. I think it's more that you want to let everyone know that you're totally committed and in love with the person you are marrying. However there are other ways you can do this too, for instance some people are happy to remain "permanently Engaged" etc.

Both my husband and I are lucky, our parents are happily married and have strong relationships. I think if you have come from an upbringing with separated parents that it would make you skeptical of marriage.

But I think you just have to do what works for you. For me it was a case of marrying my best friend and knowing that he loves me as much as I love him.

Devil Girl, you could always refer to your boyfriend as your partner, if you don't like the term boyfriend ;)

I agree with this. It's what I keep telling my BF. He doesn't want to get married ever, cause he thinks that it's a show of "Yeah, I got this girl, she's MINE" and that after the wedding that it'll be all male dominated and fighting and screaming and yelling and stuff. His parents are together, but they do fight an awful lot, and his dad doesn't like girls very much. So, he's always scared he's going to turn into his dad. So I don't know how to get the point across that you don't suddenly change into different people.

But, yeah, I've seen some couples who aren't married but have been together for years and they're happy.

I agree with you…though I do not come from a broken home. My mum and dad are still happily married (though that is my dads second marriage)

I had a look on the BBC and this is what it says about the UK divorce. http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/5301270.stm . That was last year so if I see anything else I will post it.

That is really funky BFFC-Mel. Really sweet in fact. I was thinking about it today I think I like the idea of marriage but not the reality.. I know that sounds odd but I like reading about fictional characters getting married (like the ones in Star Wars) but I do not want to get married myself.

I do not dislike the term BF/GF but I do not feel it applies to us anymore. Maybe it is because we have made a commitment to each other by staying together after having children (the came a lot earlier in the relationship than what we had originally planned) I call my brothers partner his GF but it feels odd calling Devil boy that now (eek that is another one that will probably not make sense)

Miba, I do think your BF has a point. I post on another forum and there is a woman who says that her husband has turned into her father in law. It must be scary for him and some people do change with marriage. Maybe he will want to get married when the time is right and he is comfortable with the idea. One of my closest friend’s husband did not want to get married but something clicked and he said yes when she proposed. Good luck with whatever you sort out.

SWEET! Me and Ashley went to go see Pirates 3! and during the previews, she grabed my face, and planted on my lips. It was cool.

Awe bless that is so sweet :D Did you enjoy the film?

yeah, I had already seen it, but I did not mind seeing it again.

That is good. I hope that things continue to go funkily for you :D

ME TOO! I'm very happy!

Awe bless that is just so sweet, I am really happy for you :D

wow havent posted in this for a while. SO ashley broke up with me like 4 mounts ago, w/e. I was at out Homecoming game lat light, and I was hanging out with friends, and a girl came up and said "hi" then stayed for a while, then left. OMG, she was so beautiful OMG. so one of my friends(girl) pulls me aside and asks "So you like my friend Maddy(beautiful girl)" I says " mabey" and so she got all excited and called Maddy upstairs, and I WAS SO SCARED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! then Maddy came and gave me a hug, she gave me her # so i'm going to call her today. YAY

I suppose I should update. Me and Vince, my old BF, broke up in March. Then in July I agreed to go out with this guy from work, Victor. Things are wonderful with him. :) I love him so much!

.....Alone.....All...alone..... :(
But whatever, stuff happens the way it happens.

ive heard that haveing a GF is rather expensive....and i like my money

Sometimes the expense of a GF is all your own. Victor buys things for me a lot and I don't make him do it. I mean, you know, sometimes it's kinda nice, but mostly it makes me feel weird that he's buying things for me.

Things are finally looking up for me! I'm the team mascot at my High School which comes with certain perks. (e.g., Cheerleaders love a guy in a bear suit! :P), And a friend of mine named Katie has been acting rather fond of me as of late. Woo-hoo! Viva La Romance!

Lucky.............I think i should try to get into something like that. Ive always wanted to be a mascot. (ok well not realy, but  i think id be good at it)

I havent had a serious girlfriend in 5 years. Ive just had, flings i guess. I am currently talking to a girl at the moment, her names sophie. I think i have a chance.

Good luck to you.

I'm single.  :-/

Thanks, things are looking brighter every day. I asked her to the homecoming dance yesterday.

what did she say?

...I've heard that about wives... lol

Though my husband has been spending a LOT of money on his truck lately.

See you guys are still young. Don't rush getting a Bf or Gf. I didn't start dating untill I was in college. And that was simply my choice. Trust me love is a PAIN. It really messes you up sometimes. Like with my Bf now. I think I'm totally in love with him and I know he cares about me, but last winter we "took a break" for like 2 months that were just misrable for me. Horrible. But then we worked it out. Up and down, back and forth. And a Gf doesn't have to be expencive. I usually offer to pay my share because I don't think it's fair for him to pay for everything all the time, especially if going out is my idea. Sometimes I ask ahead of time if he minds paying because I earn way less than he does. He has a real job in NYC, I work 8 hours a week and go to school and thus don't have much to go out with. Sometimes I buck the system and pay for the whole thing when I can. Money is something we've never argued about actually, and that gives me hope for the future. (plus we both believe in spending it on SW stuff and toys. Once we even bought his and hers lightsabers.)

ROCK ON!! I don't know if I have devuldged my age here yet but i'm 16 (17 nov 1st!) and "prime" dating age. BUT I don't date mostly because it's just asking for trouble. also I don't want to get this close to someone that I can't do anything for/with what I'm saying is that if I feel like I'm getting close I want to be able to get married... but I can't I'm just 16! and even if I did get married I'd have no way to provide for a family. this is why I don't like todays dating world.  I mean you and a girl go some where by your selves for most of the night...trouble. And with the way most teens act you can see why I say "asking for trouble" (just listen to any pop song they are all about one night stands and no comitment.).
My sister got married this year and she and her husbend never dated sure they would go and do stuff but only with the rest of the fam, yes they did get to have time alone and would often go on walks and stuff but mostly we all did stuff together. This I like because first off the rest of my family dosn't feel like there being diched for some guy/girl who they then end up hating. (I've seen my other friends get a little mad at there siblings bf/gf cu'z they ignore everyone else and then the bf/gf just leaves with their sister or brother and they don't see them any more exept when they come home and and have their parent woried about whats been going on.    Trouble, hurt,) don't get me wrong I would love to be on "the dating scene" and I do have a girl who is a friend who I like, but I know better then to let my feeling get away from me so I'm holding back and waiting till I can soport a family or at least each other.

So thanks Si Titran for saying hold back because it is hard, not just on you but your friends and fam as well.

Oh my little sweethearts, you are all so young. Do not rush to find a girlfriend or boyfriend. I am 25 and I must say that if I could go back in time......I would have spent more time on hobbies, with friends and with family. Enjoy being young and if you want to date then that is wonderful but don't stress out about finding true love. Pshh I thought I was in love at 15 and dated the same guy for many years and realized that being so serious with someone at that age takes focus off of your career and life goals. And do not be sad.....I know times can get lonely and it's nice to have someone at the end of the day, but you must be completely happy as a whole person before someone can come into your life. 

:)

Total agreement to that!  I wish I could go back too

It's so nice to see people here who don't do the whole "I have to be in a relationship to be happy" thing...  That always annoyed me.  If you can't be happy by yourself, how are you going to be happy with someone else?  I never understood it. 

And I think many errors happen when you go into dating too soon.  I think I jumped into my first relationship too soon and I can't look back on it fondly and I wish I could.  Which is part of the reason I've remained single.  I don't want to leap into anything before I'm ready.  Plus, I'm only 18, so I have plenty of time.  :)

I want a Bf who looks like Daniel Logan, or maybe just 10 minutes alone with Daniel Logan.

ok, so Maddy thinks i'm a stalker, cause I would text her randomly through out the day, so she does not like my anymore. So I'm giving up on girls till I move, so I'll just chill with my friends, and my guitar :P

Went to that girl Sophie's house yesterday, i dont know if you guys remember me talking about her. Well it was a Success :) :) :)

P.S.
;)

what do you mean by "Success"?

BD

I dont think im at liberty to explain exactly what I mean by success....

By success he means she DIDN"T throw a egg,brick,cow,exetra... at him.
lol jk.

No she didn't...on the contrary....

So you can't really say cause there's kiddies around? :P